I wonder
2 weeks ago, in the middle of the dark night, a couple of us drove down to my friend's new place which was still under renovation. He had recently gotten married and is eagerly awaiting to move into his new love nest.
And just today I was blog/LJ hopping and chanced upon a friend's LJ with lovely photos of her new home!
Simply gorgeous! Snazzy and clean looking!
So broadly categorised, there are two groups of people when it comes to their choice of post-marriage lodging. Move out (couple-life) or continue to stay with their folks.
Frankly, I am all for the idea of the former. I have nothing against staying with in-laws or parents, but I seriously think it'll definitely be a lot more cosier living on our own.
C'mon, crudely put, would you want your folks to hear your bedroom activities?! How about wanting to invite friends over to chill out but hesitate because you have to consider if it would inconvenient others residents of the same house? Or imagine how uncomfy it would be if you just want to laze around in the house in cool (read, scantily dressed) attire and you couldn't possibly do so, because there are other people around. Sure we may all be family, but there are still certain protocol to observe nevertheless.
For that same reason, I never liked the idea of having a maid. It feels just plain awfully weird having an outsider/ outside person around in the house, which should be a haven and sanctuary for rest after a hard day at work. Its ridiculous to come home and not being able to feel truly at home and relaxed.
Thankfully, my mum wouldn't want to stay with me the moment I become a Mrs. She had her fair share of unpleasantries with my grandma (Dad's side, her mother-in-law) and she always tell us her daughters that living with the in-laws is far more complex than anything!
Haha! Ditto that mum!
Of course getting married and moving out to stay on your own does not equate to severing all ties and relations with your folks. There are still the responsbility and filial piety one needs to uphold toward one's folks. But moving out doesn't mean one's shrinking away from these. It really doesn't equate to "I can't stand you so I am moving out".
Win-win situation?
Buy a huge kickass bighouse for everyone to stay so everyone gets their own personal space? Sure, that would be nice provided you have the vitamin M aka $$.
Move out but stay nearby? When aid is required, you are just a short walk/drive away. Afterall, how far is it to travel from one end of Singapore to the other?
What say you? Move out or live with the folks?
(and no, I am not getting married yet but I am curious about how people view this issue)
And just today I was blog/LJ hopping and chanced upon a friend's LJ with lovely photos of her new home!
Simply gorgeous! Snazzy and clean looking!
So broadly categorised, there are two groups of people when it comes to their choice of post-marriage lodging. Move out (couple-life) or continue to stay with their folks.
Frankly, I am all for the idea of the former. I have nothing against staying with in-laws or parents, but I seriously think it'll definitely be a lot more cosier living on our own.
C'mon, crudely put, would you want your folks to hear your bedroom activities?! How about wanting to invite friends over to chill out but hesitate because you have to consider if it would inconvenient others residents of the same house? Or imagine how uncomfy it would be if you just want to laze around in the house in cool (read, scantily dressed) attire and you couldn't possibly do so, because there are other people around. Sure we may all be family, but there are still certain protocol to observe nevertheless.
For that same reason, I never liked the idea of having a maid. It feels just plain awfully weird having an outsider/ outside person around in the house, which should be a haven and sanctuary for rest after a hard day at work. Its ridiculous to come home and not being able to feel truly at home and relaxed.
Thankfully, my mum wouldn't want to stay with me the moment I become a Mrs. She had her fair share of unpleasantries with my grandma (Dad's side, her mother-in-law) and she always tell us her daughters that living with the in-laws is far more complex than anything!
Haha! Ditto that mum!
Of course getting married and moving out to stay on your own does not equate to severing all ties and relations with your folks. There are still the responsbility and filial piety one needs to uphold toward one's folks. But moving out doesn't mean one's shrinking away from these. It really doesn't equate to "I can't stand you so I am moving out".
Win-win situation?
Buy a huge kickass bighouse for everyone to stay so everyone gets their own personal space? Sure, that would be nice provided you have the vitamin M aka $$.
Move out but stay nearby? When aid is required, you are just a short walk/drive away. Afterall, how far is it to travel from one end of Singapore to the other?
What say you? Move out or live with the folks?
(and no, I am not getting married yet but I am curious about how people view this issue)
posted by Shazza at Tuesday, November 29, 2005
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